The wonderful thing is that this is flexible and tailored to each birthing family. For some families, the desire is extra information during pregnancy and someone to answer questions during labour. Someone else may desire a calm presence who can offer massage or counterpressure for 8 hours straight. You may want some assistance setting up and filling a birth pool, making sure the music is on and the lights low, and someone is groaning along with you when you're feeling tapped out in hour six. It could mean fetching cool cloths and filling up water. A doula can remind you to eat and drink to keep your energy up, to remember to use the bathroom. I can suggest different positions or relaxation and pain relief techniques, all the while whispering in your ear that you are a rockstar, and I believe in you.
Partners often love doulas because they can act as a guide in an otherwise intimidating new experience. There's nothing I love more than watching a partner step in and start to emulate things I have been saying and doing at a birth, seeing that they are finding their confidence and feeling guided and supported themselves. Having a doula also gives your partner a chance to grab coffee (or send me on a run!), get a quick bite to eat, or even just a few moments to rest their hands in a difficult back labor. It is usually the birthing partners idea to hire a doula, but the supporting partner that raves the most afterwards!
For a further look into what birth doula care may look like for you, check out this recent blog I shared.